No, I’m Not on Facebook (And No Author Should Be)
Posted on November 19, 2020

I am fully aware that I will receive a lot of flack for this post, but it’s one that I feel needs to be written. Most of my author friends are on Facebook. Hell, many of them have created their own communities on the platform and depend on it for advertising revenue. Many valuable writers groups exist solely on Facebook. I understand the inherent draw and can list a ton of valid rebuttals off the top of my head. This was not a rash decision. It took a lot of time and effort to reach this point, but now I can proclaim with confidence:

“No, I am not on Facebook. And you shouldn’t be either.”

I should start by saying that I was on Facebook for a long time. When I was a new author, I dove head-first into the marketing machine and swallowed every tip I could find. Interacting with Facebook wasn’t a shallow dabble or passing interest. I was in it to win it. I invested my time, my attention, and my money.

And now I regret every second of it.

My decision to leave Facebook wasn’t due to a single thing. It was an amalgamation of many things, a clog of degradation and anti-productivity that finally kicked me out of the haze.

This was an ethical decision.

Marketing is about sales. Everything I do apart from writing is about selling said writing. When I post something on social media, it is with the hope that readers will find it interesting enough to buy one of my books. It’s that simple. It’s an emotionally sterile transaction.

However, posting on Facebook crosses an ethical line.

The founders of Facebook readily admit that the platform was designed to be addictive. It’s a virtual slot machine that creates gambling addicts. So when it came time to hand over money for the privilege of showing ads to those addicts, I hit a brick wall of morality. The ads I ran didn’t last long. It felt … evil.

I have no problems purchasing ads that leverage mailing lists. BookBub is a prime example. Readers sign up for the service and expect deals on books. I then purchase ads that fulfill that promise. It’s a neutral transaction that benefits everyone involved.

Facebook, on the other hand, is acting like a drug dealer. They throttle organic reach and then charge to get it back (the much-maligned “boosting” feature), and their ad service is notorious for sucking budgets dry. It’s not hard to understand why countless businesses are fed up with the platform. If Facebook could charge a “login fee” and get away with it, they probably would.

And this is on top of the endless scandals, privacy issues, and shocking overreach. Two words: Cambridge Analytica. Facebook has become an answer to “What plagues modern society?” It’s no longer a social hub for friendly banter and funny memes. As tech guru Jaron Lanier rightly points out, it has mutated into a “behavior manipulation engine.” It is truly alarming how many people now cite Facebook as their primary news source. It’s a raging sea of disinformation and shady business that I want no part of anymore, personally or professionally.

I am willing to bet that many famous authors wish they weren’t.

Over the years, I studied the profiles of big-name writers like Stephen King and J.K. Rowling, hoping to glean some insight. I remember gazing at their massive followings with starry-eyed envy. “If only I had those numbers,” I thought. “Imagine the influence I could wield.”

And then Stephen King had a very public fallout with the political community.

And then J.K. Rowling had a very public fallout with the trans community.

I watched both incidents through widened eyes, beyond thankful that I didn’t have to suffer those blowbacks. Regardless of allegiance, both were vicious battles that trended for weeks. They were even spotlighted by worldwide media. Even George RR Martin wasn’t immune, as his Hugo Awards debacle severely wounded his media clout.

Now I think to myself, “Thank goodness I do not wield that level of influence.”

Denial is a powerful drug.

I want to make it abundantly clear that this decision was not made on a whim. This was a slow decoupling that took a lot of consideration. Abandoning buyer pools goes against all business logic, so there has to be a damn good reason to do so.

There were times when I thought, “Meh, it’s not harming anything to keep my account active.” Other times I thought, “Maybe I’ll unlock the secret that turns engagement into gold.” I went through a lot of bargaining, justification, and outright denial.

And then I read these books:


Deep Work and Ten Arguments are the most relevant to this discussion, but really anything by Cal Newport or Jaron Lanier will do the trick (Digital Minimalism and You Are Not a Gadget come to mind). Both authors are heavyweights in the IT field, not just eager chaps with ideas to sell. Newport is an Associate Professor of Computer Science at Georgetown University. Lanier is Silicon Valley royalty and a founding father of virtual reality. In other words, when they speak, powerful people listen.

Not that I’m powerful, but damn did I listen.

Their scathing critiques of social media are difficult to ignore. And while I haven’t detached from all of it (yet), the writing is definitely on the wall.

When I do use social media, I focus my effort and keep it short.

I still use Twitter for one and only one reason: they do not erect paywalls between me and my followers. The platform has its problems, but I can still inject content into hashtag silos, which reward me with website traffic. In fact, even before I abandoned Facebook, Twitter accounted for the vast majority of my social media referrals.

I also keep my engagement brief and limit the time that posts stay active. Everything I share is a link back to my website, which strips the platform of its addictive power. Interacting with my posts will redirect you here, my ever-growing repository of personal content. I want readers to scroll through my blog, not a graveyard of outdated tweets.

It’s still a neutral exchange (for now). But as J.K. Rowling can attest, you can pay a heavy price for venturing outside of your professional domain. Being on Twitter is a risk, but it’s one you can mitigate. If you check my feed, you will notice right away that it’s strategically contained. No politics, no topical issues, no social opinions, just me and my writing.

I have embraced the Trinity of Ownership: website, blog, and mailing list.

A common refrain in digital marketing is “never build your house on rented land.” This is the entire business model of social media, in that they control access to your own audience.

You may think that you own your Facebook Page, but they erect paywalls between you and your subscribers, effectively holding your engagement hostage. You can lessen that barrier with “boost” fees, but that’s an incredibly sinister practice. It’s the social media equivalent of baggage fees.

Instead, authors should focus on the three silos they have full control over: their website, blog, and mailing list. The time you spend inside the virtual slot machine is far better served creating reader magnets or learning how to leverage SEO.

My conclusion is anything but conclusive.

It’s frustrating to admit that I lack a satisfying verdict. I hate social media, but I still use it to a limited degree. I loathe Facebook, but I sympathize with authors who are bound to it. I firmly believe that no writer should reside on the platform, but I stop short of openly preaching that gospel. This post will carry that torch, and I will point to it whenever anyone asks if I’m on Facebook. I can only hope that some of you will read these words and gain the resolve to abandon the Zuckerberg Empire.

I can sense a grand awakening on the horizon, but I have no idea when that day will come. In the meantime, I suggest watching The Social Dilemma, a poignant documentary that expertly dissects the pitfalls of social media.

For now, that seems like a good stopping point. (And perhaps a good starting one as well.)

Follow-up post:
Embrace the Trinity of Ownership: Website, Blog, and Mailing List

Read more:
I Have Slayed the Twitter Dragon (And Bid Farewell to Social Media)
Rethinking Author Branding: Why Social Media is Marketing Poison

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